|Wednesday, September 06, 2006
there are just so many things happening around us. i had my lecture on 'dynamics of interpersonal effectiveness'. i like the module ah! it teaches me how to handle interpersonal relationships well. sometimes, we may think that certain communication styles will just emerge or will just...appear. rubbish. it is really not that easy. and i realise that...listening for the sake of 'hearing the person talk or make surface statements' is simply not listening at all. if u are really listening, u need to try and be an AUTHENTIC listener. u must really care to listen."I can feel for you."
"I can feel with you."
it may sounds cliche but i think it is necessary. it doesnt help telling people this:"its okay. time will heal."
or "hey. everybody goes through this."
by saying all that above, its similar to you saying this to a terminally-ill person:"its ok, babe. everybody will die some day. you just happen to die earlier than us. i meet u in heaven."
yes i know that i m saying all this because when i do want people to listen to my problems, *i know that this is probably not good* but i dun want pple to tell me things i already know. hey. i know time will heal. but i wanna know how to MANAGE going THROUGH it NOW! haha! yeah. and same for me. i m not a perfect listener either. but i m willing to learn. and i realise. relationships fail because people do not know how to listen. what is it REALLY that one is saying to another. what is there beneath the words. and the volume.
* spoken&willspeakagain*
11:24 AM
